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Struggling


I realized something today… everyone is struggling with something other people aren’t struggling with. It is this reason that opening up to people and talking to close friends will allow you to become a better, happier, and more confident person. I, for one, struggle with my self-esteem, I hide that by acting out and being sarcastic a lot, sometimes too much!

Many people I know, including myself, allow themselves to become trapped by insecurities and struggles that they are aware of. It is up to each and every one of us to realize our weaknesses and reverse them into something much more powerful…. Optimism and hope! What’s the point as human beings to be destroyed by negativity and doubt when all we have to do is open ourselves a tiny bit and talk to close friends?

I understand sometimes talking to others about small problems is sometimes the weakness being faced, but allowing yourself to open up to people only allows you to be stronger in the future. Practice makes perfect with this idea! Sometimes the first person you open up to is not the ideal person and you feel like shutting down, but
DON’T! It is in that very instant that each and every one of us should realize we are beyond that feeling of hopelessness and abandonment and begin reaching out to others.

Practice doesn’t only make perfect, it ends up making friends, family, happiness, trust, and so much more. Over the next few weeks I challenge each and every person that reads this post to reach out and talk to someone about something, ANYTHING! Talk to them about an awful test, a fading relationship, a mistake, or any other event in your life! With time talking can become your best therapy, your best lifeline! Use that “phone a friend” lifeline we’ve been given for free our whole lives and talk to someone. Maybe the first time won’t go so well, but it’s that one time it does that will change your life!

It’s the one time. The one time someone gives you good advice. The one time someone helps you through a predicament. The one time a friend says just the right thing to change any doubt you may have had about yourself.

It’s time we all open up for that ONE TIME! If we don’t, we may never experience all that life and relationships have to offer! The great thing about having over 6 billion people on this planet is that someone somewhere had gone through an experience you need help with and can offer up some sort of advice to help. Finding that person may take perseverance and tenacity, but once you find the right phrase, the right person, and the right advice, you’ll know every tear, doubt, and hurt along the way will be able to be healed because of the helping words of one single person.

Open up. Set your feelings free. Allow yourself to speak about problems. Forget about what some may think about you. It is one kind word or piece of advice that will destroy every negative thing you’ve been said. That one experience will trump all. That one experience will cast a shadow over all negative experiences. That one moment will leave you wanting more, and that is what this is all about. Striving for positivity and optimism in a world that can be considered no more than an ocean of diarrhea and negativity. Find the island or reality. The friend who is optimistic through all. Use that resource. Allow yourself to be consumed in positivity. Anything and Everything can be accomplished when optimism is injected into the core of any plan. Use this positivity from friends as a drug that will allow you to grow and become a better person.

Reach out and touch someone today.
Reach out and be touched today.
Reach out and open up to someone.
Reach out of your comfort zone.
Find that positive outlook.
No struggle can be overcome without optimism and positivity.
No struggle can be reduced without a kind word.
No struggle is going to disappear without a fight.

As Toy Story pointed out, “You’ve got a friend in me”, use this ideal and help someone that needs it! Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Motivation from friends is what we all need, you’d be surprised how many of your friends are ready to lend a helping hand and a friendly ear. Use your resources and struggling will become less of a headache and more of a growing opportunity.

Perseverance


If this semester has taught me anything besides the actual school material I need to know, it’s that perseverance is by far one of the most needed qualities in life.  Once, twice, sometimes three times a week I sit down for an entire night, sacrificing sleep for the hope that I will have joy from a good test grade.  Perseverance doesn’t come from continuing on through success though, it comes from rising above your failures, learning from them, and accomplishing something that you couldn’t before.  It’s pushing so hard you think of little else than the final goal of whatever it is you are striving for.  For me, that goal is graduating in the long run, but for now passing tests and making it out alive.  Perseverance by definition is a state of persistence through anything including obstacles, difficulties, and discouragement.  Now honestly, I have not done particularly well in some of the tests I have taken this semester, but it’s at these times you need to stand up, look yourself in the mirror, and stare into your soul.  Force yourself to become better than what you may think of yourself at the moment, force yourself to ignore people who think you can’t do it, but mostly force yourself to overcome your own personal obstacles you have set up mentally.  Overcome doubt in yourself.  Overcome the discouragement of failure.  Overcome your negative thoughts.  Become more than you could ever imagine by digging deep within yourself to prove you can do something you once though you couldn’t.  Forget about everyone and everything else and focus on what you need to do to get to the stage of preparedness you need for whatever it is you are accomplishing.  It may sound cliché, but the phrase “Be all you can be” is not only something military personnel should think and achieve.  Every person, in every way can become what they want to be with perseverance.  You can do what you can do, but only if you push yourself to get there.  Perseverance to me is a characteristic trait I am slowly getting the hang of, it is something I wish I had my entire life, and it is something I wish for everyone to have.  Think hard and long about something you wish you could do or want to do and don’t only aim for it, aim for the next highest thing.  “Always aim for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars” (W. Clement Stone) That phrase really puts everything I’m saying into perspective and makes you think about everything that could be accomplished if you aim higher than anything you ever thought imaginable.  I’m trying to get into a D.O. or P.A. program after undergraduate studies, this is my goal, yes I have failed tests, and even an entire class. I’m not perfect.  It’s what I choose to do with these failures that define me as a person.  What are your goals and how are you going to push yourself to overcome obstacles you face to surpass any goal you set for yourself?

 

-Eric Welter

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