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Break Free


Each and every one of us in this world struggles with some sort of current or past addiction(s).  It’s these chains that hold us down and inhibit us from being able to advance.  Life is a game of inches that is hard enough to claw through on our own without the added weight and tension of chains that are keeping us tied down to something.  Whatever your chains may be it’s time to break free from them!

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Alcohol. Broken hearts. Drugs. Abusive relationships. Self-doubt. Hatred. Depression. Financial problems.  Family problems.  Loneliness. Whatever your chains are, break free from them. Don’t let artificial things in this life hold you down from the greatest gift of all, LIVING.

Live a life of no regrets.

Live a life of happiness.

Live a life of caring and compassion.

Live a life of fulfillment.

Live a life of love.

Don’t ever let anyone or anything keep you from achieving everything you want to achieve in this life.  This is your life and it must be lived to its greatest potential. Every morning you wake up is another gift.  We all get one life to live.

Never give up on yourself or your goals.

Never settle for less.

Never hold on to anyone who won’t hold on to you.

BUT

Always strive for great things.

Always love unconditionally.

Always live life the way you want to live it.

No matter what you may be going through, no matter what your problems may be, you can and will break the chains that are holding you down.  Believe in yourself and all things are possible.

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Psalm 107: 14 . “He brought them out of darkness and the deepest gloom and broke away their chains.”


We’ve all heard the proverbial saying “patience is a virtue”, but what does it really mean?  Patience is nothing more than being able to put our wants and desires on hold for a given period of time.  Patience is something all of us want and need but few of us master it.  Patience and I, well… let’s just say we’re not on good terms!  I want so badly sometimes something to just come into my life, something to give me instant satisfaction and gratification.  That’s how I’ve always been, I don’t know why!

Patience is definitely something a virtue that must be practiced and perfected but something that can only be practiced through experiences no one really wants. It shows up at work, at school, with your parents, with your friends, with God, and with essentially everything and everyone you come into contact with.  You even experience having to use patience as a baby, dirty diapers and hunger can’t all be undone in a blink of an eye even though you cry your brains out and want it to be fixed.  Patience is something I struggle with so badly, and it really turns up around this time of the year.  I am one of the MOST impatient people you’ll ever meet around Christmas, I buy presents for friends and family and they buy presents for me and I just want everyone to open everything so I don’t have to wait to see the smiles on their faces when they open their presents.  Patience is something I want and need, but I know it doesn’t just come over night (maybe it’s something I can put on my Christmas list)! So until I begin to master this virtually impossible to master virtue, I will not only wait and practice, but I will keep a good attitude while waiting.  To me, that’s patience, staying optimistic while having to wait for what we desire.

I know for a fact every human on this planet wants something NOW! Sleep, caffeine, food, a drink, family, friends, comfort, a friendly ear, or maybe it’s just one small second of rest from this hectic lifestyle.  But I promise waiting for whatever it is you want and desire will make finally getting it that much better.  Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s…. the wait, it’s unbearable! I want so much, right now!  But I must wait, and that waiting, I know will bring with it more joy.  Take time out of this busy, “it’s all about the here and now”, “I must have it now” materialistic society we all live in, and instead of enjoying what we see in the future and the things we may be getting, think about what we have and are blessed with.  There is so much, and because I know I have so much, I know I can wait and be patient with optimism for what is to come.

Attitude is Everything


Attitude is the way you think.

Your attitude is something other people can actually see

They can hear it in your voice,

See it in the way you move,

Feel it when they are with you.

Your attitude expresses itself in everything you do,

All the time, wherever you are.

Positive attitudes always invite positive results.

Negative attitudes always invite negative results.

Attitude makes a difference every hour, everyday,

In everything you do for your entire life.

What you get out of everything you do,

Will equal the attitude you have when you do it.

If you have a positive attitude, you are looking for ways

To solve the problems you solve,

And are letting go of the things

Over which you have no control.

You can develop a positive attitude by emphasizing the good,

By being tough-minded, and by refusing defeat.

– Author Unknown

Is the glass half empty or half full for you?

Do you look around and see only negative things or do you look around and see things that can be changed for the better?

Can you see the true good in people?

For one day this week, go out and have a positive attitude about everything!  If something happens that’s bad, brush it off with a “no worries” and keep moving along.  Negative events and pessimism can be just a second of your life or it can control your life, the choice is up to each and every one of us.  Having a positive outlook on life and being optimistic about things around you can be contagious to those around you. I would like nothing more than to see our world begin to be turned around by people being optimistic and positive about the world and the nonsense we endure and live through on a daily basis!

Go out, be positive, be optimistic, show the world what you have goin’ for you and keep your chin up through thick and thin!  Change the world one smile and one positive attitude at a time!  I promise you’ll be shocked how your daily relationships with everyone you encounter begin to change when positivity comes into play.

Getting fixed


Contemplation of life and what life has to offer leads to some of the most incredible human emotions a person can have.

What does life have to offer?

Can I learn from my mistakes?

How will I get through this next day after all the times I’ve messed up?

Can I get out of moving in reverse?

I want NEED something to ignite me!

For everyone, there is a guide.  For me, it’s my relationship with God.  It’s been a relationship I’ve had for a really long time, a relationship that I’ve let suffer but still one that I hold on to and cherish.  I know every time I am struggling, every time I am in a corner, every time I need help to get out of a funk, and every time I need someone to help push me along this road we call life….

I have someone to look towards,

someone to pray to,

someone who will help me not only get by,

but truly conquer ANYTHING!

Religion is a touchy subject, one that causes fighting and arguments far too often.  But religion is something that the majority of people believe in.  It gives me something greater than myself to believe in.  It gives me more than hope.  After all, the coincidences of life can’t purely be coincidence all the time…. can it?  There has to be someone out there playing a role in my life,

I believe it, I know it as fact.

For someone else, maybe it’s not God that you believe in, maybe you believe in no higher powers.  Whatever you believe in, there is something that guides you out of the dark, a light for your path, something that guides you back to reality and out of the dark.   Stop trying to fight for what you want and really dig deep to find what you need.

What is it you truly need?

Love? Life? Happiness? Confidence? Family? Friends?

Life is no more than a roller coaster.  A roller coaster of emotions and happiness from day 1.

As a baby you are happy one second than hungry the next, only to be satisfied soon after and tired shortly after this.

As a child, optimism for what the day has to come and disappointment for not getting that one thing you so desperately wanted.

As a teenager, relationships and friendships are nothing more than their own personal roller coasters of ups and downs.

The list can go on and on, but for me, I find strength and confidence in my every day knowing that I have a “light that will guide me home” and someone who will not only try to fix me but will, in time succeed in making my life more than what I can even imagine.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

What gives you hope?  What will fix you in your times of need?

For me, I can without a doubt say God, family, and friends.

For you?


First off, I would like to thank any of my followers, friends, and readers that have been, will be, or just happen to be reading my blog. It’s been 2 weeks since the start and I’m at over 500 views already, I never thought people would read and enjoy my stuff, let alone share it with everyone, so that being said… THANK YOU!

As we enter the month of November, I know we all have plenty on our minds. As students, we see the end of this semester coming closer, as adults we feel the Holidays coming on (stress and all), and we feel the cooler and nicer weather. We have so much to be thankful for, after all if you’re reading this you’re alive, you’re breathing, you’ve probably had something to eat or drink today, you have eyes that work, a brain that functions, and somewhere along the line you were taught how to read. That is 7 things. 7 things that most people take for granted just because it’s something many of us never actually think about.

There is truly so much to be thankful for in my life. I have the best family in the world, my parents love me and support me through thick and thin no matter what. My friends are absolutely incredible in every conceivable way. I have been blessed with so much!

Going into the next few weeks, into the Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s holidays, I challenge you to sit down and think about everything you have to be thankful for. Make a list, write it out, share it with people. Show the world how much you have to be thankful for and tell everyone who you are truly thankful for how much they mean to you. There is always so much in today’s society that revolves around “me, me, me, me, me”, well now… make it about everyone else for a day or two, go out there and really think about everything you have to be thankful for. I promise, sitting down and writing out a list may not sound like fun, but let it be an experience. A personal eye-opener to help you appreciate life and everything in it. Share with the world how thankful you are for everything and everyone you have.

Be Thankful For

by Pravs J

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations. Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge. Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

I challenge you to make a list of the top 20 things in your life that you are thankful for.

What are you thankful for?

Is it in you?


CONFIDENCE

By Patrick Cummings

I am a lifeguard on the ocean of potential

I rescue success from the depths of fatigue,

breathe life back into lungs like arrows from muted tongues

I am both singular and in unison

I can be ignored like cloud cover, sold like medicine

I can be spit out like oil spills & cleaned up like apologies

I am a stray tornado at the bulkhead of your basement breath

& I am wondering if you will let me in

You can tell them later how the radio of your mind came clear

like a car exiting a tunnel,

how standing back up felt like drowning in reverse

When the jackhammer in your chest settles,

tell them how you were pulled back into the boat of possibility,

how you took the oars and you found the shore,

how you listened to the voice inside when I whispered,

“more, more, more”

until I was quiet like satisfaction & still like pride

If one thing has given me confidence in life and in myself, it’s what I did over summer. A complete transformation of myself inside and out to produce who I am today. Who I knew I wanted to be. Who I knew I needed to be. Who I knew would take everything inside of me to become. But who I once thought I could not be. Self-confidence was a thing I lacked…. in every aspect of my life. “I hate the way I look”, “I hate how tired I am”, “I can’t do well in school”, “these classes are too hard”…. the list can go on forever. This is why things needed to change. For anyone out there struggling in any aspect of life, know that confidence is something you CAN have. Self-confidence is nothing more than looking in the mirror, seeing yourself, the product of your experiences and the building blocks of your future, and saying “I got this…. Everything up to this point has prepared me for whatever life has to throw my way, I GOT THIS!”

I’m not going to lie and say that this confidence is something easily found, something that can just be created overnight inside of you. This is something that must be created by a true happiness with yourself and your surroundings. Self-confidence IS inside everyone though. It’s up to you to find it, work yourself to the breaking point, through exhaustion, through everyday life, and once you reach the point where you can be happy with what you have and where you are. THAT’S IT! If you don’t think you have it inside of you, you’re wrong. If you’ve ever said, “one more try… one more shot at this…. I can get this…” about anything, you’ve got it!

Embrace it.

Love it.

Become immersed in it.

Be confident in all you do.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” -E. E. Cummings

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