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The Optimism Challenge


Sometimes life can get in the way of discovering yourself, your emotions, who you are, and how much strength you actually have.  We, as humans, forget to realize how strong each one of us is.  We forget that sometimes it is important to reflect on who we are and build ourselves up before helping others.  We don’t realize how much we can accomplish each and every day.  We focus so much on what everyone else around us has accomplished and what they have that we want.  It’s time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and our situations and think of ways that we can better ourselves from the inside out.  True strength comes from within and, much like any muscle in our body, the only way to become stronger is by working.

I have a friend (who shall remain nameless in this post but has allowed me to talk about her) that has gone through some seriously rough times over the last few years of her life.  Lately, life has just been throwing change-ups and curveballs at her and she has struggled with confidence.  Time and time again I tried helping her out by giving advice and just being a listening ear, but then an idea came to me.  The idea that true strength comes from inside and it needs to be worked on is what inspired this idea.  I had her find a quote about optimism and/or happiness every day for one week.  Only one week.  She needed to find whatever quote that made an immediate impact on her when she read it and tell me why it related to her.  “Why do this”, you may ask.  Nothing builds optimism or happiness more than surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and positive people.  By having her find one simple quote a day that related to her on some level she had to read many.  Each quote she read had to be thought about on some level, subconscious or otherwise, and each time a new quote was read a little seed of optimism and happiness could be planted.

Confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, optimism, happiness, and so many other personal thoughts are often things that are taken for granted and not thought of.  I find myself still struggling sometimes with my confidence and self-esteem to this day even though for years I have been working at making myself feel better.  Strength from inside is not something that can be gained in one day, one week, or even one year.  It is a never-ending battle of trying to balance out the punches life is throwing at you with the relentless push from inside to keep getting up, brushing off the dirt, and saying to yourself nothing can keep me down.  Believing in yourself will open your eyes to a whole new you that no one has ever seen before.  You truly can be your own worst enemy but don’t let that be the case.

I challenge everyone reading this to do one thing, make yourself find quotes that relate to you.  Make it a daily personal challenge.  Start your day off by finding a quote that inspires you, that motivates you, that makes you happy or optimistic about the day ahead.  Write the quote down and put it somewhere you’ll see multiple times throughout the day.  Live each day through these quotes and allow optimism and happiness to exude from you.  You never know the difference you can make in your life and the people’s lives around you just by being a happier, more optimistic version of yourself.

Take the step. 

Start the challenge today.

Begin to change your life now!

 

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Trust yourself, the beginning of success


The first idea Arnold Schwarzenegger brought up when discussing his 6 keys to success I think is the most important one of all. Trust yourself. What does this mean? How do you go about doing this?

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To me trusting yourself is a mixture of many things; self-esteem, composure, confidence, and self-worth all play a huge part in learning how to trust yourself. Trusting yourself really comes down to a decision you make for you and you ONLY! You can’t decide to trust yourself for someone else, you can’t magically begin trusting yourself because I, or someone else, says too, and you sure as hell can’t trust yourself if you don’t actually believe in yourself. Trusting yourself comes down to believing in yourself and the decisions you make and standing by them because you know the decisions you make for yourself are the right decisions. Trusting yourself should not be something to procrastinate, trusting yourself should start now! Nothing can stop you when you learn to trust yourself, and as Johann Wolfgang Von Gbethe said, “as soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live”. Truer words have never been spoken. So how do you go about being able to trust yourself? Well, it comes down to faith. Believe in what you are doing, lead your life as you want it to be, do not stray from your path, and be vigilant in your decision to continue with what you set out to do. Once a plan has been set into motion, it stays in motion. Set goals, make plans, follow a timeline and benchmarks. Whatever you need to do to stay on pace or exceed the goals you want to make can be done and should be done.

Nothing can stop you.
No one can shake loose a foundation self-trust.
Nothing can tear apart who you want to be.
Most importantly no one can take away the trust you have in yourself once you realize you know more than you think you do and you learn to believe in each and every decision you make.

Go out and make the decision.
Learn to trust yourself.
Become hungry for more and strive for the best and biggest goals you can imagine.
Believe in your decisions and don’t allow yourself to stray from the path you’ve chosen for yourself.

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Struggling


I realized something today… everyone is struggling with something other people aren’t struggling with. It is this reason that opening up to people and talking to close friends will allow you to become a better, happier, and more confident person. I, for one, struggle with my self-esteem, I hide that by acting out and being sarcastic a lot, sometimes too much!

Many people I know, including myself, allow themselves to become trapped by insecurities and struggles that they are aware of. It is up to each and every one of us to realize our weaknesses and reverse them into something much more powerful…. Optimism and hope! What’s the point as human beings to be destroyed by negativity and doubt when all we have to do is open ourselves a tiny bit and talk to close friends?

I understand sometimes talking to others about small problems is sometimes the weakness being faced, but allowing yourself to open up to people only allows you to be stronger in the future. Practice makes perfect with this idea! Sometimes the first person you open up to is not the ideal person and you feel like shutting down, but
DON’T! It is in that very instant that each and every one of us should realize we are beyond that feeling of hopelessness and abandonment and begin reaching out to others.

Practice doesn’t only make perfect, it ends up making friends, family, happiness, trust, and so much more. Over the next few weeks I challenge each and every person that reads this post to reach out and talk to someone about something, ANYTHING! Talk to them about an awful test, a fading relationship, a mistake, or any other event in your life! With time talking can become your best therapy, your best lifeline! Use that “phone a friend” lifeline we’ve been given for free our whole lives and talk to someone. Maybe the first time won’t go so well, but it’s that one time it does that will change your life!

It’s the one time. The one time someone gives you good advice. The one time someone helps you through a predicament. The one time a friend says just the right thing to change any doubt you may have had about yourself.

It’s time we all open up for that ONE TIME! If we don’t, we may never experience all that life and relationships have to offer! The great thing about having over 6 billion people on this planet is that someone somewhere had gone through an experience you need help with and can offer up some sort of advice to help. Finding that person may take perseverance and tenacity, but once you find the right phrase, the right person, and the right advice, you’ll know every tear, doubt, and hurt along the way will be able to be healed because of the helping words of one single person.

Open up. Set your feelings free. Allow yourself to speak about problems. Forget about what some may think about you. It is one kind word or piece of advice that will destroy every negative thing you’ve been said. That one experience will trump all. That one experience will cast a shadow over all negative experiences. That one moment will leave you wanting more, and that is what this is all about. Striving for positivity and optimism in a world that can be considered no more than an ocean of diarrhea and negativity. Find the island or reality. The friend who is optimistic through all. Use that resource. Allow yourself to be consumed in positivity. Anything and Everything can be accomplished when optimism is injected into the core of any plan. Use this positivity from friends as a drug that will allow you to grow and become a better person.

Reach out and touch someone today.
Reach out and be touched today.
Reach out and open up to someone.
Reach out of your comfort zone.
Find that positive outlook.
No struggle can be overcome without optimism and positivity.
No struggle can be reduced without a kind word.
No struggle is going to disappear without a fight.

As Toy Story pointed out, “You’ve got a friend in me”, use this ideal and help someone that needs it! Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Motivation from friends is what we all need, you’d be surprised how many of your friends are ready to lend a helping hand and a friendly ear. Use your resources and struggling will become less of a headache and more of a growing opportunity.

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