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The Optimism Challenge


Sometimes life can get in the way of discovering yourself, your emotions, who you are, and how much strength you actually have.  We, as humans, forget to realize how strong each one of us is.  We forget that sometimes it is important to reflect on who we are and build ourselves up before helping others.  We don’t realize how much we can accomplish each and every day.  We focus so much on what everyone else around us has accomplished and what they have that we want.  It’s time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and our situations and think of ways that we can better ourselves from the inside out.  True strength comes from within and, much like any muscle in our body, the only way to become stronger is by working.

I have a friend (who shall remain nameless in this post but has allowed me to talk about her) that has gone through some seriously rough times over the last few years of her life.  Lately, life has just been throwing change-ups and curveballs at her and she has struggled with confidence.  Time and time again I tried helping her out by giving advice and just being a listening ear, but then an idea came to me.  The idea that true strength comes from inside and it needs to be worked on is what inspired this idea.  I had her find a quote about optimism and/or happiness every day for one week.  Only one week.  She needed to find whatever quote that made an immediate impact on her when she read it and tell me why it related to her.  “Why do this”, you may ask.  Nothing builds optimism or happiness more than surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and positive people.  By having her find one simple quote a day that related to her on some level she had to read many.  Each quote she read had to be thought about on some level, subconscious or otherwise, and each time a new quote was read a little seed of optimism and happiness could be planted.

Confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, optimism, happiness, and so many other personal thoughts are often things that are taken for granted and not thought of.  I find myself still struggling sometimes with my confidence and self-esteem to this day even though for years I have been working at making myself feel better.  Strength from inside is not something that can be gained in one day, one week, or even one year.  It is a never-ending battle of trying to balance out the punches life is throwing at you with the relentless push from inside to keep getting up, brushing off the dirt, and saying to yourself nothing can keep me down.  Believing in yourself will open your eyes to a whole new you that no one has ever seen before.  You truly can be your own worst enemy but don’t let that be the case.

I challenge everyone reading this to do one thing, make yourself find quotes that relate to you.  Make it a daily personal challenge.  Start your day off by finding a quote that inspires you, that motivates you, that makes you happy or optimistic about the day ahead.  Write the quote down and put it somewhere you’ll see multiple times throughout the day.  Live each day through these quotes and allow optimism and happiness to exude from you.  You never know the difference you can make in your life and the people’s lives around you just by being a happier, more optimistic version of yourself.

Take the step. 

Start the challenge today.

Begin to change your life now!

 

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Struggling


I realized something today… everyone is struggling with something other people aren’t struggling with. It is this reason that opening up to people and talking to close friends will allow you to become a better, happier, and more confident person. I, for one, struggle with my self-esteem, I hide that by acting out and being sarcastic a lot, sometimes too much!

Many people I know, including myself, allow themselves to become trapped by insecurities and struggles that they are aware of. It is up to each and every one of us to realize our weaknesses and reverse them into something much more powerful…. Optimism and hope! What’s the point as human beings to be destroyed by negativity and doubt when all we have to do is open ourselves a tiny bit and talk to close friends?

I understand sometimes talking to others about small problems is sometimes the weakness being faced, but allowing yourself to open up to people only allows you to be stronger in the future. Practice makes perfect with this idea! Sometimes the first person you open up to is not the ideal person and you feel like shutting down, but
DON’T! It is in that very instant that each and every one of us should realize we are beyond that feeling of hopelessness and abandonment and begin reaching out to others.

Practice doesn’t only make perfect, it ends up making friends, family, happiness, trust, and so much more. Over the next few weeks I challenge each and every person that reads this post to reach out and talk to someone about something, ANYTHING! Talk to them about an awful test, a fading relationship, a mistake, or any other event in your life! With time talking can become your best therapy, your best lifeline! Use that “phone a friend” lifeline we’ve been given for free our whole lives and talk to someone. Maybe the first time won’t go so well, but it’s that one time it does that will change your life!

It’s the one time. The one time someone gives you good advice. The one time someone helps you through a predicament. The one time a friend says just the right thing to change any doubt you may have had about yourself.

It’s time we all open up for that ONE TIME! If we don’t, we may never experience all that life and relationships have to offer! The great thing about having over 6 billion people on this planet is that someone somewhere had gone through an experience you need help with and can offer up some sort of advice to help. Finding that person may take perseverance and tenacity, but once you find the right phrase, the right person, and the right advice, you’ll know every tear, doubt, and hurt along the way will be able to be healed because of the helping words of one single person.

Open up. Set your feelings free. Allow yourself to speak about problems. Forget about what some may think about you. It is one kind word or piece of advice that will destroy every negative thing you’ve been said. That one experience will trump all. That one experience will cast a shadow over all negative experiences. That one moment will leave you wanting more, and that is what this is all about. Striving for positivity and optimism in a world that can be considered no more than an ocean of diarrhea and negativity. Find the island or reality. The friend who is optimistic through all. Use that resource. Allow yourself to be consumed in positivity. Anything and Everything can be accomplished when optimism is injected into the core of any plan. Use this positivity from friends as a drug that will allow you to grow and become a better person.

Reach out and touch someone today.
Reach out and be touched today.
Reach out and open up to someone.
Reach out of your comfort zone.
Find that positive outlook.
No struggle can be overcome without optimism and positivity.
No struggle can be reduced without a kind word.
No struggle is going to disappear without a fight.

As Toy Story pointed out, “You’ve got a friend in me”, use this ideal and help someone that needs it! Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Motivation from friends is what we all need, you’d be surprised how many of your friends are ready to lend a helping hand and a friendly ear. Use your resources and struggling will become less of a headache and more of a growing opportunity.


Like all living things on this planet, we have experiences that can and should be used as a learning opportunity. How do we, as flawed, greatly imperfect humans, learn how to turn negative moments into experiences that will teach you something that can last a lifetime?

Learning is more than just an experiential thing, it’s a nature versus nurture battle. Each experience is a stone in the pathway of past and future experiences. Your life leads you to each experience and each experience along the way is a fork in the road, the path you choose is nothing more than a personal decision based upon a moral compass that may or may not be instilled in you.

All experiences can lead to some kind of learning. How positive or negative the the lesson you learn is your choice, there is really no wrong or right lesson to learn from experiences because each person is an individual that has been formed through the addition of new experiences every day. Positive experiences and learning opportunities tend to lead to positive outlooks and outcomes while negative experiences may lead to a dark path of repeating bad choices.

It is absolutely astonishing to me how one bad choice or one bad act can lead a generally happy person down a road of despair, depression, and the repetition of bad ideas. I know far too many people that have allowed one bad choice to dictate their lives and futures. We all make mistakes but it’s using those mistakes for a positive learning experience that makes the difference. Turn a negative occurrence, a bad grade, a break up, a mistake, or bad choice into a moment of learning that can change the direction of the road you’re on to positivity and optimism.

Experiential learning is an art that takes practice and dedication. It takes the motivation from within, from others, or from other moments you’ve had. It takes a positive attitude to make positive experiences. Cut the crap out of your life, the dead weight, the people, thoughts, ideas, and useless drama that has accumulated and allow yourself to be free. Once you’re free, you allow yourself to have an open mind that can be filled with positive learning experiences. Freedom from negative influences leads to the injection of positivity and optimism needed to travel along a path of greatness and positive experiences.

Don’t allow negative influences and experiences to pave a dark and dreary road for yourself. Every dark pathway has a light on it somewhere that just needs to be lit. Fight for that light. Get to the light and do whatever it takes to get there. Claw and scratch your way towards the light and out of the darkness. Once you light one light, JUST ONE, it illuminates the path enough to find the next. Before you know it, each light on the pathway can and will be lit.

Experiential learning is an occurrence each and every one of us faces on a daily basis. The art is not just within learning, it’s learning positive things from all experiences even when faced with diversity. Illuminate the path before you, it’s much more enjoyable of a walk that way.

Attitude is Everything


Attitude is the way you think.

Your attitude is something other people can actually see

They can hear it in your voice,

See it in the way you move,

Feel it when they are with you.

Your attitude expresses itself in everything you do,

All the time, wherever you are.

Positive attitudes always invite positive results.

Negative attitudes always invite negative results.

Attitude makes a difference every hour, everyday,

In everything you do for your entire life.

What you get out of everything you do,

Will equal the attitude you have when you do it.

If you have a positive attitude, you are looking for ways

To solve the problems you solve,

And are letting go of the things

Over which you have no control.

You can develop a positive attitude by emphasizing the good,

By being tough-minded, and by refusing defeat.

– Author Unknown

Is the glass half empty or half full for you?

Do you look around and see only negative things or do you look around and see things that can be changed for the better?

Can you see the true good in people?

For one day this week, go out and have a positive attitude about everything!  If something happens that’s bad, brush it off with a “no worries” and keep moving along.  Negative events and pessimism can be just a second of your life or it can control your life, the choice is up to each and every one of us.  Having a positive outlook on life and being optimistic about things around you can be contagious to those around you. I would like nothing more than to see our world begin to be turned around by people being optimistic and positive about the world and the nonsense we endure and live through on a daily basis!

Go out, be positive, be optimistic, show the world what you have goin’ for you and keep your chin up through thick and thin!  Change the world one smile and one positive attitude at a time!  I promise you’ll be shocked how your daily relationships with everyone you encounter begin to change when positivity comes into play.

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