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The Optimism Challenge


Sometimes life can get in the way of discovering yourself, your emotions, who you are, and how much strength you actually have.  We, as humans, forget to realize how strong each one of us is.  We forget that sometimes it is important to reflect on who we are and build ourselves up before helping others.  We don’t realize how much we can accomplish each and every day.  We focus so much on what everyone else around us has accomplished and what they have that we want.  It’s time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and our situations and think of ways that we can better ourselves from the inside out.  True strength comes from within and, much like any muscle in our body, the only way to become stronger is by working.

I have a friend (who shall remain nameless in this post but has allowed me to talk about her) that has gone through some seriously rough times over the last few years of her life.  Lately, life has just been throwing change-ups and curveballs at her and she has struggled with confidence.  Time and time again I tried helping her out by giving advice and just being a listening ear, but then an idea came to me.  The idea that true strength comes from inside and it needs to be worked on is what inspired this idea.  I had her find a quote about optimism and/or happiness every day for one week.  Only one week.  She needed to find whatever quote that made an immediate impact on her when she read it and tell me why it related to her.  “Why do this”, you may ask.  Nothing builds optimism or happiness more than surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and positive people.  By having her find one simple quote a day that related to her on some level she had to read many.  Each quote she read had to be thought about on some level, subconscious or otherwise, and each time a new quote was read a little seed of optimism and happiness could be planted.

Confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, optimism, happiness, and so many other personal thoughts are often things that are taken for granted and not thought of.  I find myself still struggling sometimes with my confidence and self-esteem to this day even though for years I have been working at making myself feel better.  Strength from inside is not something that can be gained in one day, one week, or even one year.  It is a never-ending battle of trying to balance out the punches life is throwing at you with the relentless push from inside to keep getting up, brushing off the dirt, and saying to yourself nothing can keep me down.  Believing in yourself will open your eyes to a whole new you that no one has ever seen before.  You truly can be your own worst enemy but don’t let that be the case.

I challenge everyone reading this to do one thing, make yourself find quotes that relate to you.  Make it a daily personal challenge.  Start your day off by finding a quote that inspires you, that motivates you, that makes you happy or optimistic about the day ahead.  Write the quote down and put it somewhere you’ll see multiple times throughout the day.  Live each day through these quotes and allow optimism and happiness to exude from you.  You never know the difference you can make in your life and the people’s lives around you just by being a happier, more optimistic version of yourself.

Take the step. 

Start the challenge today.

Begin to change your life now!

 

Struggling


I realized something today… everyone is struggling with something other people aren’t struggling with. It is this reason that opening up to people and talking to close friends will allow you to become a better, happier, and more confident person. I, for one, struggle with my self-esteem, I hide that by acting out and being sarcastic a lot, sometimes too much!

Many people I know, including myself, allow themselves to become trapped by insecurities and struggles that they are aware of. It is up to each and every one of us to realize our weaknesses and reverse them into something much more powerful…. Optimism and hope! What’s the point as human beings to be destroyed by negativity and doubt when all we have to do is open ourselves a tiny bit and talk to close friends?

I understand sometimes talking to others about small problems is sometimes the weakness being faced, but allowing yourself to open up to people only allows you to be stronger in the future. Practice makes perfect with this idea! Sometimes the first person you open up to is not the ideal person and you feel like shutting down, but
DON’T! It is in that very instant that each and every one of us should realize we are beyond that feeling of hopelessness and abandonment and begin reaching out to others.

Practice doesn’t only make perfect, it ends up making friends, family, happiness, trust, and so much more. Over the next few weeks I challenge each and every person that reads this post to reach out and talk to someone about something, ANYTHING! Talk to them about an awful test, a fading relationship, a mistake, or any other event in your life! With time talking can become your best therapy, your best lifeline! Use that “phone a friend” lifeline we’ve been given for free our whole lives and talk to someone. Maybe the first time won’t go so well, but it’s that one time it does that will change your life!

It’s the one time. The one time someone gives you good advice. The one time someone helps you through a predicament. The one time a friend says just the right thing to change any doubt you may have had about yourself.

It’s time we all open up for that ONE TIME! If we don’t, we may never experience all that life and relationships have to offer! The great thing about having over 6 billion people on this planet is that someone somewhere had gone through an experience you need help with and can offer up some sort of advice to help. Finding that person may take perseverance and tenacity, but once you find the right phrase, the right person, and the right advice, you’ll know every tear, doubt, and hurt along the way will be able to be healed because of the helping words of one single person.

Open up. Set your feelings free. Allow yourself to speak about problems. Forget about what some may think about you. It is one kind word or piece of advice that will destroy every negative thing you’ve been said. That one experience will trump all. That one experience will cast a shadow over all negative experiences. That one moment will leave you wanting more, and that is what this is all about. Striving for positivity and optimism in a world that can be considered no more than an ocean of diarrhea and negativity. Find the island or reality. The friend who is optimistic through all. Use that resource. Allow yourself to be consumed in positivity. Anything and Everything can be accomplished when optimism is injected into the core of any plan. Use this positivity from friends as a drug that will allow you to grow and become a better person.

Reach out and touch someone today.
Reach out and be touched today.
Reach out and open up to someone.
Reach out of your comfort zone.
Find that positive outlook.
No struggle can be overcome without optimism and positivity.
No struggle can be reduced without a kind word.
No struggle is going to disappear without a fight.

As Toy Story pointed out, “You’ve got a friend in me”, use this ideal and help someone that needs it! Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Motivation from friends is what we all need, you’d be surprised how many of your friends are ready to lend a helping hand and a friendly ear. Use your resources and struggling will become less of a headache and more of a growing opportunity.


We’ve all heard the proverbial saying “patience is a virtue”, but what does it really mean?  Patience is nothing more than being able to put our wants and desires on hold for a given period of time.  Patience is something all of us want and need but few of us master it.  Patience and I, well… let’s just say we’re not on good terms!  I want so badly sometimes something to just come into my life, something to give me instant satisfaction and gratification.  That’s how I’ve always been, I don’t know why!

Patience is definitely something a virtue that must be practiced and perfected but something that can only be practiced through experiences no one really wants. It shows up at work, at school, with your parents, with your friends, with God, and with essentially everything and everyone you come into contact with.  You even experience having to use patience as a baby, dirty diapers and hunger can’t all be undone in a blink of an eye even though you cry your brains out and want it to be fixed.  Patience is something I struggle with so badly, and it really turns up around this time of the year.  I am one of the MOST impatient people you’ll ever meet around Christmas, I buy presents for friends and family and they buy presents for me and I just want everyone to open everything so I don’t have to wait to see the smiles on their faces when they open their presents.  Patience is something I want and need, but I know it doesn’t just come over night (maybe it’s something I can put on my Christmas list)! So until I begin to master this virtually impossible to master virtue, I will not only wait and practice, but I will keep a good attitude while waiting.  To me, that’s patience, staying optimistic while having to wait for what we desire.

I know for a fact every human on this planet wants something NOW! Sleep, caffeine, food, a drink, family, friends, comfort, a friendly ear, or maybe it’s just one small second of rest from this hectic lifestyle.  But I promise waiting for whatever it is you want and desire will make finally getting it that much better.  Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s…. the wait, it’s unbearable! I want so much, right now!  But I must wait, and that waiting, I know will bring with it more joy.  Take time out of this busy, “it’s all about the here and now”, “I must have it now” materialistic society we all live in, and instead of enjoying what we see in the future and the things we may be getting, think about what we have and are blessed with.  There is so much, and because I know I have so much, I know I can wait and be patient with optimism for what is to come.

Attitude is Everything


Attitude is the way you think.

Your attitude is something other people can actually see

They can hear it in your voice,

See it in the way you move,

Feel it when they are with you.

Your attitude expresses itself in everything you do,

All the time, wherever you are.

Positive attitudes always invite positive results.

Negative attitudes always invite negative results.

Attitude makes a difference every hour, everyday,

In everything you do for your entire life.

What you get out of everything you do,

Will equal the attitude you have when you do it.

If you have a positive attitude, you are looking for ways

To solve the problems you solve,

And are letting go of the things

Over which you have no control.

You can develop a positive attitude by emphasizing the good,

By being tough-minded, and by refusing defeat.

– Author Unknown

Is the glass half empty or half full for you?

Do you look around and see only negative things or do you look around and see things that can be changed for the better?

Can you see the true good in people?

For one day this week, go out and have a positive attitude about everything!  If something happens that’s bad, brush it off with a “no worries” and keep moving along.  Negative events and pessimism can be just a second of your life or it can control your life, the choice is up to each and every one of us.  Having a positive outlook on life and being optimistic about things around you can be contagious to those around you. I would like nothing more than to see our world begin to be turned around by people being optimistic and positive about the world and the nonsense we endure and live through on a daily basis!

Go out, be positive, be optimistic, show the world what you have goin’ for you and keep your chin up through thick and thin!  Change the world one smile and one positive attitude at a time!  I promise you’ll be shocked how your daily relationships with everyone you encounter begin to change when positivity comes into play.

Getting fixed


Contemplation of life and what life has to offer leads to some of the most incredible human emotions a person can have.

What does life have to offer?

Can I learn from my mistakes?

How will I get through this next day after all the times I’ve messed up?

Can I get out of moving in reverse?

I want NEED something to ignite me!

For everyone, there is a guide.  For me, it’s my relationship with God.  It’s been a relationship I’ve had for a really long time, a relationship that I’ve let suffer but still one that I hold on to and cherish.  I know every time I am struggling, every time I am in a corner, every time I need help to get out of a funk, and every time I need someone to help push me along this road we call life….

I have someone to look towards,

someone to pray to,

someone who will help me not only get by,

but truly conquer ANYTHING!

Religion is a touchy subject, one that causes fighting and arguments far too often.  But religion is something that the majority of people believe in.  It gives me something greater than myself to believe in.  It gives me more than hope.  After all, the coincidences of life can’t purely be coincidence all the time…. can it?  There has to be someone out there playing a role in my life,

I believe it, I know it as fact.

For someone else, maybe it’s not God that you believe in, maybe you believe in no higher powers.  Whatever you believe in, there is something that guides you out of the dark, a light for your path, something that guides you back to reality and out of the dark.   Stop trying to fight for what you want and really dig deep to find what you need.

What is it you truly need?

Love? Life? Happiness? Confidence? Family? Friends?

Life is no more than a roller coaster.  A roller coaster of emotions and happiness from day 1.

As a baby you are happy one second than hungry the next, only to be satisfied soon after and tired shortly after this.

As a child, optimism for what the day has to come and disappointment for not getting that one thing you so desperately wanted.

As a teenager, relationships and friendships are nothing more than their own personal roller coasters of ups and downs.

The list can go on and on, but for me, I find strength and confidence in my every day knowing that I have a “light that will guide me home” and someone who will not only try to fix me but will, in time succeed in making my life more than what I can even imagine.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11

What gives you hope?  What will fix you in your times of need?

For me, I can without a doubt say God, family, and friends.

For you?


First off, I would like to thank any of my followers, friends, and readers that have been, will be, or just happen to be reading my blog. It’s been 2 weeks since the start and I’m at over 500 views already, I never thought people would read and enjoy my stuff, let alone share it with everyone, so that being said… THANK YOU!

As we enter the month of November, I know we all have plenty on our minds. As students, we see the end of this semester coming closer, as adults we feel the Holidays coming on (stress and all), and we feel the cooler and nicer weather. We have so much to be thankful for, after all if you’re reading this you’re alive, you’re breathing, you’ve probably had something to eat or drink today, you have eyes that work, a brain that functions, and somewhere along the line you were taught how to read. That is 7 things. 7 things that most people take for granted just because it’s something many of us never actually think about.

There is truly so much to be thankful for in my life. I have the best family in the world, my parents love me and support me through thick and thin no matter what. My friends are absolutely incredible in every conceivable way. I have been blessed with so much!

Going into the next few weeks, into the Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s holidays, I challenge you to sit down and think about everything you have to be thankful for. Make a list, write it out, share it with people. Show the world how much you have to be thankful for and tell everyone who you are truly thankful for how much they mean to you. There is always so much in today’s society that revolves around “me, me, me, me, me”, well now… make it about everyone else for a day or two, go out there and really think about everything you have to be thankful for. I promise, sitting down and writing out a list may not sound like fun, but let it be an experience. A personal eye-opener to help you appreciate life and everything in it. Share with the world how thankful you are for everything and everyone you have.

Be Thankful For

by Pravs J

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations. Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge. Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

I challenge you to make a list of the top 20 things in your life that you are thankful for.

What are you thankful for?

Is it in you?


CONFIDENCE

By Patrick Cummings

I am a lifeguard on the ocean of potential

I rescue success from the depths of fatigue,

breathe life back into lungs like arrows from muted tongues

I am both singular and in unison

I can be ignored like cloud cover, sold like medicine

I can be spit out like oil spills & cleaned up like apologies

I am a stray tornado at the bulkhead of your basement breath

& I am wondering if you will let me in

You can tell them later how the radio of your mind came clear

like a car exiting a tunnel,

how standing back up felt like drowning in reverse

When the jackhammer in your chest settles,

tell them how you were pulled back into the boat of possibility,

how you took the oars and you found the shore,

how you listened to the voice inside when I whispered,

“more, more, more”

until I was quiet like satisfaction & still like pride

If one thing has given me confidence in life and in myself, it’s what I did over summer. A complete transformation of myself inside and out to produce who I am today. Who I knew I wanted to be. Who I knew I needed to be. Who I knew would take everything inside of me to become. But who I once thought I could not be. Self-confidence was a thing I lacked…. in every aspect of my life. “I hate the way I look”, “I hate how tired I am”, “I can’t do well in school”, “these classes are too hard”…. the list can go on forever. This is why things needed to change. For anyone out there struggling in any aspect of life, know that confidence is something you CAN have. Self-confidence is nothing more than looking in the mirror, seeing yourself, the product of your experiences and the building blocks of your future, and saying “I got this…. Everything up to this point has prepared me for whatever life has to throw my way, I GOT THIS!”

I’m not going to lie and say that this confidence is something easily found, something that can just be created overnight inside of you. This is something that must be created by a true happiness with yourself and your surroundings. Self-confidence IS inside everyone though. It’s up to you to find it, work yourself to the breaking point, through exhaustion, through everyday life, and once you reach the point where you can be happy with what you have and where you are. THAT’S IT! If you don’t think you have it inside of you, you’re wrong. If you’ve ever said, “one more try… one more shot at this…. I can get this…” about anything, you’ve got it!

Embrace it.

Love it.

Become immersed in it.

Be confident in all you do.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” -E. E. Cummings

Holstee Manifesto


The manifesto to live by

 

I came across this manifesto about a month ago.  It’s definitely something to read and remember, words to live by.  If you treat everyday like life is short, seizing every opportunity, and doing the things you love and make you happy, you will undoubtedly love life and what life has in store for you.  There’s no reason to search for a relationship when you’re doing the things you love because you are happy and content doing things that make you happy.  While doing those things people will definitely see the insane amount of enjoyment and gratification you have with your life, and people with similar interests will gravitate towards you to make their life better just by simply being in contact with you.  Always wear your passion, no matter what it is, no matter if you get picked on, taunted, or bothered, where your passion and wear it proudly.  Shoot for your dream, no matter what it is, fight for whatever your dream is because everything you could ever want and imagine is attainable, it’s just a matter of if and how you go after them.  Bring yourself up by bringing the people around you up, and in turn they will reinforce your positive attitude and want to be a part of the passion and greatness that encompasses you and your life.  Do whatever it is you love and do it as often as you can to be successful and happy in life, after all that’s what life is! Life is simple.  Life is short.  Life is meant to be happy.  Life is meant to be fun-filled and contain a passion for something.  The Holstee Manifesto is one of the greatest manifestos of all time in my opinion, because it encompasses so much power and meaning in so few words.  What do you think of this manifesto and how does it pertains to your life?

The Path: My Story


The last year has been a huge year of change, a year of transformation, maturing, and growth.  Why this last year? Why the change, now?  The story is one with ups and downs and all kinds of twists and turns resulting in the roller coaster called my health and well-being.  The story starts now.

3 years ago I decided I wanted to lose weight and be a healthier person, I went to the gym, watched what I ate, and had a personal trainer.  I was motivated….at the time.  Summer ended, I went to college, and the normal lazy inactive person I was before became who I was again and the weight began to pile on.  All the weight I lost over one summer came back, plus some.  I was on a downward spiral of weight gain, depression, injury, anger, and laziness that lasted for years.  All that was about to change.

I reached my low last December, after a semester of excessive partying, a ton of drinking, junk food, late nights, and unhealthy living.  I reached the point where I could not stand to see the man I saw in the mirror.  I hated the man I had become.   I was miserable.  I was depressed.  I was always tired.  I stopped caring about myself and thought change would be impossible.  Things had to change right then, at that moment, because I literally thought I would not be living much longer.  I was at 276 pounds and had a body fat percentage of over 34% at the very beginning of this year.  If I didn’t fight for change for myself, who would?

I began carving my path at the beginning of the year with some light cardio days that started to help me lose a few pounds that I inevitably would gain back when my ankle surgery took place at the beginning of march.  Ankle surgery resulted in 8 weeks of being unable to do strenuous physical activity, but it gave me 8 weeks of pure reflection and the ability to change my diet.  I left college and came home for the summer where it instantly became game time!

It began with a regulated sleep schedule, many small meals throughout the day (usually every 3 hours), and a schedule that I would not allow to change or falter.  My path was more than a physical change, it was a mental change, a lifestyle change, a complete change of the person I was, and it needed to happen!  Functional training was the answer, a mixture of training techniques including high intensity cardio, endurance, strength, stability, coordination, flexibility, power, yoga, and body weight movements allowed for rapid (yet healthy) change.  I fought exhaustion, stress from my internships and work,  and soreness to conquer the mess I had become and change my life! I beat myself and my negativity to lose over 60 pounds and nearly 20% of my body fat.

I told you my story for one reason, motivation.  It comes down to what you want, what you want out of life, and what you want out of yourself.  I had to drag myself out of the despair that had overtaken my life and climb out of the darkness.  I learned something this summer, anything you truly want and are willing to work for can be attained!  The benefits of change far outweigh the work I put in to obtain, all the blood, sweat, and tears that accompanied the 3 months I was home for summer were worth nothing compared to the confidence, self-esteem, happiness, and personal drive and accountability I have found.  Motivation is everywhere you look, it’s different for every individual, but exists in all things.  My motivation to change came from the mirror I stood in front of day in and day out for years.  Any person can achieve anything by allowing motivation and drive to encompass them and push them.  What drives you?  What motivates you?  What pushes you further then you could ever imagine?  Harness whatever it is that motivates you and push for anything and everything you want, you never know what you can accomplish unless you push yourself to the edge to reach what you desire.

What Is Love?


Somebody asked me the question “What is love? What does it mean to you?” the other day.  Now when that question is asked, you immediately think of all the stuff that is taught to you growing up.  What love is supposed to be, that happy fairytale ending with “happily ever after” written shortly after beginning a family.  But what is it really? Is it “finding that certain someone you can annoy for the rest of your life”? Is it loving someone so deeply and so amazingly that you would do absolutely anything for that person, no matter what it is? Or better yet, as my mom and dad have taught me, is it a decision you make every morning when you wake up, and every night when you go to sleep?  A conscious decision to undoubtedly love your significant other when the going gets rough and the clouds over you begin to turn black?

Love, to me, is having that feeling in your gut that you know if that person walked out of the room you would almost instantly miss them.  That kind of childish attachment you have to your mother when you’re little.  Love is doing anything and everything for the other person just to see a smile, the kind of smile that brightens up your world and brings sunshine into the room even when it is as black as midnight outside.  Love is going to the end of the world for that other person.  Love is being so mad at the other person you can’t even speak, then getting a hug from them that literally stops the world’s rotation and stops the movement of time so much so that you can’t help but to feel comforted by their embracing arms.

Now, I may not be an expert in this whole “Love” thing, but I don’t think you need to be in a forever long relationship that ends in “I Do” to understand what love really truly is.  You feel it from birth until death.  From the womb to the grave.  Love is everywhere around you.  Friends that go out of their way to pick you up when you’re having car troubles and family members that are there for you when you hit a speed bump in life.  Most people think love is only around when you’re in a relationship with someone, but if I’ve learned anything over the last few years of my life, it’s that love is all around.  Each and every friend you make and talk to has some sort of love for you.  After all, in the society we live in today the word is thrown around like it means nothing, but to someone on a bad day, it means the world.

What brought this on?  Me realizing I have some of the best friends in the world, the best family a person could imagine, and continue to meet new people every day that could potentially change the meaning of my life.  I’m 30,000 feet above the earth right now and know that as I fly to my destination, someone somewhere is thinking about me and is hoping I have a safe flight.  They may not have the same definition of love as I do, but in the long run, isn’t hoping I land safely just so you can text me and say hey, and hoping I return home safely so I can hang out with you one last time to have another laugh love?  I may not be able to reflect on my life and past relationships to tell you what love actually is, but I don’t think you need a successful girlfriend/boyfriend kind of relationship to understand this concept.

What is love?  Love is everywhere.  Love is grateful. Love is Kind. Love does not envy.  Love does not boast.  Love is in heaven.  Love is on earth.  Love comes from your parents, and your friends.  Love comes from every breath you make and every time you think of someone.  Love is absolute and never-ending.  Love cannot be broken.  Love is a promise and a connection.  Love is a decision (unconscious and conscious) that must be made daily.  Love is love and for anyone who reads this, I love you for who you are and what you have done in my life.  No matter how little you think you have done, or how great an influence you have been, I love you for everything you have done and will continue to do.  That is love to me… What is love to you?

– Eric Welter

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