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The Optimism Challenge


Sometimes life can get in the way of discovering yourself, your emotions, who you are, and how much strength you actually have.  We, as humans, forget to realize how strong each one of us is.  We forget that sometimes it is important to reflect on who we are and build ourselves up before helping others.  We don’t realize how much we can accomplish each and every day.  We focus so much on what everyone else around us has accomplished and what they have that we want.  It’s time we stop feeling sorry for ourselves and our situations and think of ways that we can better ourselves from the inside out.  True strength comes from within and, much like any muscle in our body, the only way to become stronger is by working.

I have a friend (who shall remain nameless in this post but has allowed me to talk about her) that has gone through some seriously rough times over the last few years of her life.  Lately, life has just been throwing change-ups and curveballs at her and she has struggled with confidence.  Time and time again I tried helping her out by giving advice and just being a listening ear, but then an idea came to me.  The idea that true strength comes from inside and it needs to be worked on is what inspired this idea.  I had her find a quote about optimism and/or happiness every day for one week.  Only one week.  She needed to find whatever quote that made an immediate impact on her when she read it and tell me why it related to her.  “Why do this”, you may ask.  Nothing builds optimism or happiness more than surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and positive people.  By having her find one simple quote a day that related to her on some level she had to read many.  Each quote she read had to be thought about on some level, subconscious or otherwise, and each time a new quote was read a little seed of optimism and happiness could be planted.

Confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, optimism, happiness, and so many other personal thoughts are often things that are taken for granted and not thought of.  I find myself still struggling sometimes with my confidence and self-esteem to this day even though for years I have been working at making myself feel better.  Strength from inside is not something that can be gained in one day, one week, or even one year.  It is a never-ending battle of trying to balance out the punches life is throwing at you with the relentless push from inside to keep getting up, brushing off the dirt, and saying to yourself nothing can keep me down.  Believing in yourself will open your eyes to a whole new you that no one has ever seen before.  You truly can be your own worst enemy but don’t let that be the case.

I challenge everyone reading this to do one thing, make yourself find quotes that relate to you.  Make it a daily personal challenge.  Start your day off by finding a quote that inspires you, that motivates you, that makes you happy or optimistic about the day ahead.  Write the quote down and put it somewhere you’ll see multiple times throughout the day.  Live each day through these quotes and allow optimism and happiness to exude from you.  You never know the difference you can make in your life and the people’s lives around you just by being a happier, more optimistic version of yourself.

Take the step. 

Start the challenge today.

Begin to change your life now!

 


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Today is a day of being thankful, a day of happiness, a day of joy, a day of fun with family, and material possessions are overlooked on a daily basis because they are part of everyday life and we have grown accustom to having them in our lives.  But, what happens when that stuff is taken away?  What happens when something you love has been taken from you and you can’t reach out and touch it anymore? Usually, this is the moment when you realize you didn’t know what you had but now that it’s gone you realize how great it was.  Sometimes it’s the loss of something incredible that forces you to see what you’ve had and to be truly thankful for all the stuff you have in your life.

I am truly thankful for so much in my life and have fallen into a “grind of life” mentality that I should not have.  There is so much in life to be thankful for, but just living life has thrown me into a spiral of not being able to realize the incredible people and things around me.  Today is the day for this to stop! I challenge each and every person who reads this to take this step with me and vow to yourself to not take things for granted anymore.  Look around.  See the people and things you have in your life.  Don’t just have them in your field of vision, I mean actually SEE them, appreciate them, love them, care about them, listen to them, speak to them.  For all you know they may not be there forever!

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For all my family and friends, I am truly thankful for everything you have done any continue to do; for allowing me to be a part of your life, putting up with my sometimes less than stellar personality, for dealing with my flaws and weaknesses and accepting them anyways, for lending a listening ear when I need it, but most of all, for adding to my life on a daily basis.  Without my family and friends I do not know where I’d be today.  The addition of love, care, happiness, humor, and joy they’ve thrown into my life has, without a doubt, pushed me to go farther every step I’ve taken and motivated me to attempt things I would have never attempted without them behind me.

Turn today, the rest of the month, the rest of this year, next year, and (why not) the rest of your life into a perpetual thanksgiving (without the huge feast).  Remind yourself everyday about the things around you that you should be thankful for.  Realize the love that surrounds you.  Realize the amazing people in your life.  Don’t allow yourself to feel regret or remorse for not knowing what you had until it was gone. Live every day with an unconditional thankfulness for everyone around you.  Have fun and be thankful for the things you can do.  Love everyone like you’ve never been hurt.

I hope all my readers enjoy their Thanksgiving Day and allow their hearts to be opened to the people around them.  Take the step with me and make an attempt to turn your life into a perpetual Thanksgiving! It may be difficult, but I know down the road I will grow to appreciate everything in my life so much more than I already do!  Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

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First off, I would like to thank any of my followers, friends, and readers that have been, will be, or just happen to be reading my blog. It’s been 2 weeks since the start and I’m at over 500 views already, I never thought people would read and enjoy my stuff, let alone share it with everyone, so that being said… THANK YOU!

As we enter the month of November, I know we all have plenty on our minds. As students, we see the end of this semester coming closer, as adults we feel the Holidays coming on (stress and all), and we feel the cooler and nicer weather. We have so much to be thankful for, after all if you’re reading this you’re alive, you’re breathing, you’ve probably had something to eat or drink today, you have eyes that work, a brain that functions, and somewhere along the line you were taught how to read. That is 7 things. 7 things that most people take for granted just because it’s something many of us never actually think about.

There is truly so much to be thankful for in my life. I have the best family in the world, my parents love me and support me through thick and thin no matter what. My friends are absolutely incredible in every conceivable way. I have been blessed with so much!

Going into the next few weeks, into the Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Year’s holidays, I challenge you to sit down and think about everything you have to be thankful for. Make a list, write it out, share it with people. Show the world how much you have to be thankful for and tell everyone who you are truly thankful for how much they mean to you. There is always so much in today’s society that revolves around “me, me, me, me, me”, well now… make it about everyone else for a day or two, go out there and really think about everything you have to be thankful for. I promise, sitting down and writing out a list may not sound like fun, but let it be an experience. A personal eye-opener to help you appreciate life and everything in it. Share with the world how thankful you are for everything and everyone you have.

Be Thankful For

by Pravs J

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations. Because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge. Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

I challenge you to make a list of the top 20 things in your life that you are thankful for.

What are you thankful for?

Morality


Morals come from a sense of understanding and passion to do what is right no matter what.  Striving to satisfy your inner moral compass is all but easy though.  Decisions must be made every day that can sway your views on morality one or the other and sometimes even completely change how some people view you as a person.  How can something we all know about be so hard to follow and so hard to keep on the positive (or right) side of the spectrum?  Morality is all about choosing what’s right and what’s wrong in many different aspects of life.  It’s choosing whether or not to let your best friend cheat on the upcoming exam, whether or not you should lie for a friend who needs to get out of a situation with his mom, or whether or not you should say anything about your best friend cheating on his/her significant other to that person.  How do we make these decisions? Why is it so hard to do the right thing? The answer although simple enough is that being bad is more fun.  That’s right I said it… being bad or doing bad things sends a kind of adrenaline rush through most people because you’re breaking the rules and doing things that could be seen as “sticking it to the man”.  Morality is one thing that you should really strive for on a daily basis, something you should really want for yourself and the people around you. The ideals of honor and integrity should mean EVERYTHING to you.  Sometimes it won’t be easy.  Sometimes it won’t be fun.  Sometimes you may end up losing friendships or relationships because you strive to do the right thing.  But really, how can you live life to its fullest if you consistently have bad morals.  Who likes people like that, people who pick bad choice, who do crappy things, or who wouldn’t go out of their way to help you out and give morally accurate advice to you in a time of need.  It’s no wonder the nicest people are always surrounded by people who motivate them and help them continue down that “road less traveled”.  It’s hard enough to keep a moral compass pointing north, but doing it on your own will prove to be one of the hardest things ever.  Morality, in my eyes, comes from the people around you, from your parents, from your friends, from your education, and from inside of you.  It really is your decision to stay on a moral high-ground, to stay ahead of a world that usually goes the opposite direction of morality.  It’s up to you to choose the right people to surround yourself with, to uphold the virtues and morals instilled in you through the years of your life.  It’s up to you to really keep your head on straight and strive to be the best and most kind person you can be. What is life with negativity? With a never-ending path of wrong-doing’s and bad decisions?  Where will that path take you? Where will you end up while making those decisions? Look in the mirror and realize morality is really the best way to go, the best and most direct path to a happier and more fulfilling life.  Now tell me, why is it the “road less traveled”?  Seriously, tell me…

 

-Eric Welter

What Is Love?


Somebody asked me the question “What is love? What does it mean to you?” the other day.  Now when that question is asked, you immediately think of all the stuff that is taught to you growing up.  What love is supposed to be, that happy fairytale ending with “happily ever after” written shortly after beginning a family.  But what is it really? Is it “finding that certain someone you can annoy for the rest of your life”? Is it loving someone so deeply and so amazingly that you would do absolutely anything for that person, no matter what it is? Or better yet, as my mom and dad have taught me, is it a decision you make every morning when you wake up, and every night when you go to sleep?  A conscious decision to undoubtedly love your significant other when the going gets rough and the clouds over you begin to turn black?

Love, to me, is having that feeling in your gut that you know if that person walked out of the room you would almost instantly miss them.  That kind of childish attachment you have to your mother when you’re little.  Love is doing anything and everything for the other person just to see a smile, the kind of smile that brightens up your world and brings sunshine into the room even when it is as black as midnight outside.  Love is going to the end of the world for that other person.  Love is being so mad at the other person you can’t even speak, then getting a hug from them that literally stops the world’s rotation and stops the movement of time so much so that you can’t help but to feel comforted by their embracing arms.

Now, I may not be an expert in this whole “Love” thing, but I don’t think you need to be in a forever long relationship that ends in “I Do” to understand what love really truly is.  You feel it from birth until death.  From the womb to the grave.  Love is everywhere around you.  Friends that go out of their way to pick you up when you’re having car troubles and family members that are there for you when you hit a speed bump in life.  Most people think love is only around when you’re in a relationship with someone, but if I’ve learned anything over the last few years of my life, it’s that love is all around.  Each and every friend you make and talk to has some sort of love for you.  After all, in the society we live in today the word is thrown around like it means nothing, but to someone on a bad day, it means the world.

What brought this on?  Me realizing I have some of the best friends in the world, the best family a person could imagine, and continue to meet new people every day that could potentially change the meaning of my life.  I’m 30,000 feet above the earth right now and know that as I fly to my destination, someone somewhere is thinking about me and is hoping I have a safe flight.  They may not have the same definition of love as I do, but in the long run, isn’t hoping I land safely just so you can text me and say hey, and hoping I return home safely so I can hang out with you one last time to have another laugh love?  I may not be able to reflect on my life and past relationships to tell you what love actually is, but I don’t think you need a successful girlfriend/boyfriend kind of relationship to understand this concept.

What is love?  Love is everywhere.  Love is grateful. Love is Kind. Love does not envy.  Love does not boast.  Love is in heaven.  Love is on earth.  Love comes from your parents, and your friends.  Love comes from every breath you make and every time you think of someone.  Love is absolute and never-ending.  Love cannot be broken.  Love is a promise and a connection.  Love is a decision (unconscious and conscious) that must be made daily.  Love is love and for anyone who reads this, I love you for who you are and what you have done in my life.  No matter how little you think you have done, or how great an influence you have been, I love you for everything you have done and will continue to do.  That is love to me… What is love to you?

– Eric Welter


What is life? Life is the times that make you smile, the times that make you laugh, the times that make you cry, and the times that you’ll never forget. Life is this thing that can be taken away from you in a blink of an eye, but people take it for granted more often than not.

What is life? It’s having those friendships that last a lifetime, having those nights that are so amazingly epic you remember it until the day you die. It’s the ups and downs of emotions you get from relationships, the struggles and accomplishments you have in school and work, but most of all it’s the ability to stand up and fight for what you believe in.

What is life? Life is no more than a second long in the grand scheme of things, yet most people spend every second of their life worrying about what’s wrong and what others think. Life is so much more than eating, sleeping, drinking, and breathing. Life is a never ending quest to socialize and have fun; it’s having those all-nighters to comfort a friend who needs it. Life is about making decisions and living with them, looking back and having no regrets, but most of all it’s about knowing you have those best friends who will have your back even when you are being stupid.

What is life? Life is knowing stuff doesn’t happen the way you want it to but remembering everything happens for a reason. Life is having those awkward moments when the person you love brings their significant other around and you can’t say a word because you just want them to be happy. Life is taking close friends and helping them out in any way you can and every step of the way. Life is amazing and disappointing, happy and sad, good and bad, depressing and motivational.

What is life? Life is finding morals to live for, finding ideals to live by, and living and working for something greater than yourself. Life is being selfish but being considerate. Life is holding on to family because more likely than not they have your back. Life is wanting to get revenge but not actually following through. Life is doing things you don’t want to do and pretending like you are having the time of your life. Life is searching for meaning and finding none, then searching again and finding it in the people and friends around you.

Life is life. Sometimes life could be better; sometimes you really wish it would. Sometimes it’s hard to find the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you can’t see it, it’s because you aren’t looking. Yes, life has its ups and downs, its good times and its bad times. Overall, life is nothing, nothing short of amazing. The people in my life continue to strengthen me and bring me up when times get rough, and for that I thank each and every one of you.

So what is life? Life is being torn down and built back up, living, laughing, and loving. Life is life, and life is great. What’s life to you?

-Eric Welter

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