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Making a Splash


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Are you the type of person that feels the water with your toes before you jump into a pool, or do you just jump in not caring about how cold the water may be?  If you’re like me, sometimes you may get ahead of yourself and just dive into a situation head first not really looking into the future or what may lie ahead.  To me, life has to be like this more often than not.  Sometimes jumping into the vast ocean of emotions, friendships, struggle, success, opportunity, and heartache we call life is what needs to happen in order for us to move past our insecurities and fears. Living life by testing the temperature of the water inch by inch until your end may not be the best thing for you.  Going into the water by taking the steps at the end of the pool may be a safer, more controlled experience, but you waste time getting into it.  You take the steps, carefully and methodically, but what do you see?  Someone on the side has just decided to jump in and now they are enjoying something you wanted but were too afraid to just jump in and get.  They have now passed you by.  They are having fun.

I’m not saying this is the best advice, nor am I saying this is the correct advice for every moment in life.  What I am saying is to not be afraid of what the results of something you choose to do will be sometimes.  Yes, jumping into the water without feeling it first may lead to a shocking surprise of cold water, but now you’ve learned something about yourself.  You’ve learned that you have moments of being fearless.  You can be bold and just go for it sometimes.  Dive into life with freeing abandon.  Picture who you want to be as a person tomorrow, a month, a year, 5 years down the road.  Visualize that picture and just go for it.  Commit yourself and everything about yourself to that vision.  Believe in yourself.  Believe in every step, every jump, every dive, and every leap.  Yes, sometimes you may get hurt by just jumping in, but life should be about doing everything you can to enjoy every second you have been given.  Embrace yourself, your beauty, and the beauty of everyone and everything around you.  By diving straight in you may find a hidden talent or passion no one has ever seen.  You may discover something new about yourself that is greater than anything you could have ever imagined.

What I’m saying is simple.  Be fearless. You control your life and the actions you take.  So why not live it to its fullest?

Don’t hesitate to do great things with your life.

Don’t be afraid of what lies ahead.

Most of all…..

Whatever you do,

Wherever you go,

Don’t be afraid to make a splash.

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Struggling


I realized something today… everyone is struggling with something other people aren’t struggling with. It is this reason that opening up to people and talking to close friends will allow you to become a better, happier, and more confident person. I, for one, struggle with my self-esteem, I hide that by acting out and being sarcastic a lot, sometimes too much!

Many people I know, including myself, allow themselves to become trapped by insecurities and struggles that they are aware of. It is up to each and every one of us to realize our weaknesses and reverse them into something much more powerful…. Optimism and hope! What’s the point as human beings to be destroyed by negativity and doubt when all we have to do is open ourselves a tiny bit and talk to close friends?

I understand sometimes talking to others about small problems is sometimes the weakness being faced, but allowing yourself to open up to people only allows you to be stronger in the future. Practice makes perfect with this idea! Sometimes the first person you open up to is not the ideal person and you feel like shutting down, but
DON’T! It is in that very instant that each and every one of us should realize we are beyond that feeling of hopelessness and abandonment and begin reaching out to others.

Practice doesn’t only make perfect, it ends up making friends, family, happiness, trust, and so much more. Over the next few weeks I challenge each and every person that reads this post to reach out and talk to someone about something, ANYTHING! Talk to them about an awful test, a fading relationship, a mistake, or any other event in your life! With time talking can become your best therapy, your best lifeline! Use that “phone a friend” lifeline we’ve been given for free our whole lives and talk to someone. Maybe the first time won’t go so well, but it’s that one time it does that will change your life!

It’s the one time. The one time someone gives you good advice. The one time someone helps you through a predicament. The one time a friend says just the right thing to change any doubt you may have had about yourself.

It’s time we all open up for that ONE TIME! If we don’t, we may never experience all that life and relationships have to offer! The great thing about having over 6 billion people on this planet is that someone somewhere had gone through an experience you need help with and can offer up some sort of advice to help. Finding that person may take perseverance and tenacity, but once you find the right phrase, the right person, and the right advice, you’ll know every tear, doubt, and hurt along the way will be able to be healed because of the helping words of one single person.

Open up. Set your feelings free. Allow yourself to speak about problems. Forget about what some may think about you. It is one kind word or piece of advice that will destroy every negative thing you’ve been said. That one experience will trump all. That one experience will cast a shadow over all negative experiences. That one moment will leave you wanting more, and that is what this is all about. Striving for positivity and optimism in a world that can be considered no more than an ocean of diarrhea and negativity. Find the island or reality. The friend who is optimistic through all. Use that resource. Allow yourself to be consumed in positivity. Anything and Everything can be accomplished when optimism is injected into the core of any plan. Use this positivity from friends as a drug that will allow you to grow and become a better person.

Reach out and touch someone today.
Reach out and be touched today.
Reach out and open up to someone.
Reach out of your comfort zone.
Find that positive outlook.
No struggle can be overcome without optimism and positivity.
No struggle can be reduced without a kind word.
No struggle is going to disappear without a fight.

As Toy Story pointed out, “You’ve got a friend in me”, use this ideal and help someone that needs it! Life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. Motivation from friends is what we all need, you’d be surprised how many of your friends are ready to lend a helping hand and a friendly ear. Use your resources and struggling will become less of a headache and more of a growing opportunity.

Is it in you?


CONFIDENCE

By Patrick Cummings

I am a lifeguard on the ocean of potential

I rescue success from the depths of fatigue,

breathe life back into lungs like arrows from muted tongues

I am both singular and in unison

I can be ignored like cloud cover, sold like medicine

I can be spit out like oil spills & cleaned up like apologies

I am a stray tornado at the bulkhead of your basement breath

& I am wondering if you will let me in

You can tell them later how the radio of your mind came clear

like a car exiting a tunnel,

how standing back up felt like drowning in reverse

When the jackhammer in your chest settles,

tell them how you were pulled back into the boat of possibility,

how you took the oars and you found the shore,

how you listened to the voice inside when I whispered,

“more, more, more”

until I was quiet like satisfaction & still like pride

If one thing has given me confidence in life and in myself, it’s what I did over summer. A complete transformation of myself inside and out to produce who I am today. Who I knew I wanted to be. Who I knew I needed to be. Who I knew would take everything inside of me to become. But who I once thought I could not be. Self-confidence was a thing I lacked…. in every aspect of my life. “I hate the way I look”, “I hate how tired I am”, “I can’t do well in school”, “these classes are too hard”…. the list can go on forever. This is why things needed to change. For anyone out there struggling in any aspect of life, know that confidence is something you CAN have. Self-confidence is nothing more than looking in the mirror, seeing yourself, the product of your experiences and the building blocks of your future, and saying “I got this…. Everything up to this point has prepared me for whatever life has to throw my way, I GOT THIS!”

I’m not going to lie and say that this confidence is something easily found, something that can just be created overnight inside of you. This is something that must be created by a true happiness with yourself and your surroundings. Self-confidence IS inside everyone though. It’s up to you to find it, work yourself to the breaking point, through exhaustion, through everyday life, and once you reach the point where you can be happy with what you have and where you are. THAT’S IT! If you don’t think you have it inside of you, you’re wrong. If you’ve ever said, “one more try… one more shot at this…. I can get this…” about anything, you’ve got it!

Embrace it.

Love it.

Become immersed in it.

Be confident in all you do.

“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” -E. E. Cummings

The Path: My Story


The last year has been a huge year of change, a year of transformation, maturing, and growth.  Why this last year? Why the change, now?  The story is one with ups and downs and all kinds of twists and turns resulting in the roller coaster called my health and well-being.  The story starts now.

3 years ago I decided I wanted to lose weight and be a healthier person, I went to the gym, watched what I ate, and had a personal trainer.  I was motivated….at the time.  Summer ended, I went to college, and the normal lazy inactive person I was before became who I was again and the weight began to pile on.  All the weight I lost over one summer came back, plus some.  I was on a downward spiral of weight gain, depression, injury, anger, and laziness that lasted for years.  All that was about to change.

I reached my low last December, after a semester of excessive partying, a ton of drinking, junk food, late nights, and unhealthy living.  I reached the point where I could not stand to see the man I saw in the mirror.  I hated the man I had become.   I was miserable.  I was depressed.  I was always tired.  I stopped caring about myself and thought change would be impossible.  Things had to change right then, at that moment, because I literally thought I would not be living much longer.  I was at 276 pounds and had a body fat percentage of over 34% at the very beginning of this year.  If I didn’t fight for change for myself, who would?

I began carving my path at the beginning of the year with some light cardio days that started to help me lose a few pounds that I inevitably would gain back when my ankle surgery took place at the beginning of march.  Ankle surgery resulted in 8 weeks of being unable to do strenuous physical activity, but it gave me 8 weeks of pure reflection and the ability to change my diet.  I left college and came home for the summer where it instantly became game time!

It began with a regulated sleep schedule, many small meals throughout the day (usually every 3 hours), and a schedule that I would not allow to change or falter.  My path was more than a physical change, it was a mental change, a lifestyle change, a complete change of the person I was, and it needed to happen!  Functional training was the answer, a mixture of training techniques including high intensity cardio, endurance, strength, stability, coordination, flexibility, power, yoga, and body weight movements allowed for rapid (yet healthy) change.  I fought exhaustion, stress from my internships and work,  and soreness to conquer the mess I had become and change my life! I beat myself and my negativity to lose over 60 pounds and nearly 20% of my body fat.

I told you my story for one reason, motivation.  It comes down to what you want, what you want out of life, and what you want out of yourself.  I had to drag myself out of the despair that had overtaken my life and climb out of the darkness.  I learned something this summer, anything you truly want and are willing to work for can be attained!  The benefits of change far outweigh the work I put in to obtain, all the blood, sweat, and tears that accompanied the 3 months I was home for summer were worth nothing compared to the confidence, self-esteem, happiness, and personal drive and accountability I have found.  Motivation is everywhere you look, it’s different for every individual, but exists in all things.  My motivation to change came from the mirror I stood in front of day in and day out for years.  Any person can achieve anything by allowing motivation and drive to encompass them and push them.  What drives you?  What motivates you?  What pushes you further then you could ever imagine?  Harness whatever it is that motivates you and push for anything and everything you want, you never know what you can accomplish unless you push yourself to the edge to reach what you desire.

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